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Ordinary. I have never realised how this simple word was feared and I would even dare to say hated by most people. To be called ordinary is sometimes, for some, more hurtful than being called “Superficial”, “self-centred” “shallow” or worst. And adding to it “nobody” is become for people the last straw, the last insult you can throw at them.
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Ordinary Nobody: Part I & II

Our ordinary mind always tries to persuade us that we are nothing but acorns and that our greatest happiness will be to become bigger, fatter, shinier acorns; but that is of interest only to pigs. Our faith gives us knowledge of something better: that we can become oak trees.   

                                            E.F. Schumacher

Ordinary Nobody: Part I

Ordinary. I have never realised how this simple word was feared and I would even dare to say hated by most people.

To be called ordinary is sometimes, for some, more hurtful than being called “Superficial”, “self-centred”  “shallow” or worst. And adding to it “nobody” is become for people the last straw, the last insult you can throw at them.

For people, being ordinary, mean that they have not made any impact in the world around them, they have stayed invisible which for me is hardly true.

You see, there is this misconception in the general public that being ordinary is a bad thing.

There is this belief that they have to do everything in their power to be extraordinary, to be someone.

But what they did not realise with this thought process, it is that not wanted to be ordinary does not make them extraordinary but  just conformists.

They are so scare to be different that they conform. Not only poor people but also rich people.

 They go to the same holiday location, they live in the same area, they buy the same cars. And if you ask one of them the reason behind this similarity they will tell you that is how rich people live.

To summarise, they just copy their neighbours, which is sad as you may think that you become rich to be free to do what you want and not care about what other rich people think of you. 

The idea of my blog has come when I realise that we have this tendency to conform to what our society thinks we should be.

We have to be extraordinary to be recognise as worthy of interest. So guess what? Everybody wants to be extraordinary.  So I decided to change the narrative I have decided to promote what make us unique. And if being ordinary allows us to reclaim our uniqueness so be it.

 I have always thought that we are all ordinary people who confronted by exceptional circumstances can become extraordinary.

I think that human beings have struggled for so many centuries to understand their own purpose in this universe that they have burdened themselves with the concept of being “extraordinary” to convince themselves that they have higher  purposes in this world.

Look at the human history. We have spent centuries at elevated simple human to ” god status” allowing them to be better than us.

We have even created Santa Claus a fictive character to replace the hard working parents that sometimes put themselves in debt to make their children happy as you could understand working parents are not extraordinary enough for the human mind.

 

I think that being extraordinary is another way for people to deny their own mortality.

When you are extraordinary they think in their narrow view of life, you will be remembered forever. You will transcend death and become immortal. 

Because after all, who wants to be an ordinary nobody?

Ordinary Nobody: Part II

Since I have concluded the part I on this question, I have tried to answer this question. Who wants to be an ordinary nobody? 

You see our society wants to make us believe that we all need to be famous to matter, to be happy.

But the reality is far from it. How many of those supposed famous people  you know that are really happy? From where I stand I am not sure if I have known any.

If being rich and famous has to be our goal in life, those people who are advertising it are not doing a great job.

Between the overdose for some (Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston, Prince, Kurt Cobain, Janis Joplin, River Phoenix to name a few), the alcoholism for others (Daniel Radcliff, Mel Gibson, Stephen King, Robin Williams again to name a few) and do not let me start with the sex scandal, eating disorder etc. , I prefer to keep my ordinary life any single day.

The reason I have chosen this difficult theme of ordinary is because, people need to stop belittling themselves.

The grass is not greener on the other side of the fences.

So the answer to the question, who wants to be an ordinary nobody is at the same time so simple but also so complex.

Of course no one wants to be an ordinary nobody but the truth is we are all an ordinary nobody for people who do not know us.

You know I have started this blog as a tribute to my dad who for you has been an ordinary nobody because you did not have the privilege of knowing him but who was for me the most important person of in my world. He was the glue that has cemented my family together.

And I am sure that you know some people that you find amazing but are unknown for the rest of us and could be qualified as ordinary nobodies.

It is for this reason that I think that we should celebrate those people instead of those false prophets that our society keep pushing us to worship.

For my part, accepting to be ordinary means that people have had the courage to stay true to themselves. They did not bow to the pressure of the world to become someone who is not you.

There is this other misconception that the people we saw in the television or they read about in the newspapers are the people that are the most powerful, wealthiest and  famous on Earth but little did we know that the really powerful, the real wealthy ones live behind the scene, out of sight.

What most people do not know is that the most richest man in the world (and I am not talking about Jeff Bezos) is for you an ordinary nobody.

Why I am telling you that, it is because at the time of his death Pablo Escobar with his fortune should have been the 5th richest man in the world but I am sure you have never seen his name on that list. 

In the same way, at the time of his death, Colonel Gaddafi was worth $200 billion that if I am not mistaking is Jeff Bezos’ fortune. But again he has never been know as the richest man in the world. You could say that their fortune was illegal but you have to give to Caesar what is Caesar’s.

So, do not let yourself be swayed by someone else rhetoric because sometimes an ordinary nobody can be the most richest man in the world for all you know.

So Be unique. Be Yourself. Be ordinary.

 

I am going to conclude this post with a quote from Rollo May (American psychologist) who has once said :

The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice but it is conformity.

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